Modern Loneliness

Have you heard Lauv’s new song, “Modern Loneliness” yet? If not, give it a listen while you read my slice. This live version is my favorite.

Ever since I first heard this song the other day, it’s been on constant repeat. It’s a beautiful song and sounds good to my ear, but the lyrics have been speaking to me, too. The whole idea that we are never alone, we’re either together or connected in some way, yet we’re still sad, depressed, or lonely.

This whole self-quarantine thing has me reflecting on this very idea. I’ve just finished Day 8 of being isolated, restricted to my house and unable to have visitors over, but I’ve been more connected than ever before. From 7:00am until 9:00 or 10:00pm, my phone vibrates and my computer dings, alerting me that someone else needs me or wants to talk to me. Throughout the day I’m on video conferences, taking telephone calls, instant messaging, emailing, or texting. The constant noise and virtual connection does little to ease the sense of loneliness. That’s the message Lauv’s trying to get across in his song. It is modern loneliness.

If I’m honest though, I’ve felt this way for a while now. The lyrics, “[I] Love my friends to death, But I never call and I never text, yeah” ring true for me. I don’t know why I’ve been doing this lately, but it’s like I’ve stuck my head in the sand. Maybe it’s because I’m working on me and trying to figure things out in my own life. Maybe it’s because it’s draining to send messages and emails when I spend so much time on devices for work. Or maybe there’s another reason I haven’t figured out yet. Whatever the reason, I hope that my friends know how much I love them and that even though I don’t always reach out to them, I still care deeply. Maybe I have a case of modern loneliness.

9 thoughts on “Modern Loneliness

  1. livinglife816287820

    Hmmm this is intriguing, modern loneliness is definitely a very real thing. Haven’t listened to the song yet, but I’m sure it’s meaningful. I often contrast life here, where everyone lives almost in everyone’s laps with doors opening onto the street and large extended families, with our isolation and sense of being cut off no matter how many devices. I think devices make for very sterile connections, I’m sure your real friends know how much you care and the rest shouldn’t really matter!

  2. Lakshmi Bhat

    Yes, loneliness is painful. The other an elderly friend was saying how people have no time to visit. Everyone is so busy. I think al of us should try to at least call and talk to our near ones. Talking makes a lot of difference.

  3. honderick

    Very thoughtful post. I often feel lonely because everyone is so busy as Lakshmi mentioned but my son keeps me grounded in remembering the importance of talking to all our loved ones as much as we can.

  4. Terje

    Such a thoughtful, human post. It is true though that no matter how well connected we are through technology, the face-to-face connection can not be replaced. I hope that the isolation will end soon and you will have a fabulous feast with music and laughter with your friends.

  5. edifiedlistener

    I feel for you. On the one hand, you have the imposed isolation and on the other, the residue of our hyperconnected yet atomized lives. By introducing the song at the outset you give this slice a mood that helps the reader better orient. FWIW, I feel many of the same sentiments as I spread my attention across several electronic channels in addition to and on top of my in person connections through a full school day. School closure is on the horizon for us so I appreciate your reflections.


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