This morning I was catching up on a podcast I enjoy called ‘Out of the Ordinary.’ At the end of Episode 19, “You Called Me WHAT Now?”, Christie and Lisa Jo have a conversation about what their thing is, and it got me thinking, What’s my thing?
For as long as I can recall, talking’s been my thing. I talk fast and often and my stories go on forever. I’m getting much better at being more of a concise writer, however my oral storytelling is anything but. I’m the kind of person who could talk the ear off a mannequin. Put me in a long line, such as waiting for a ride at Disneyland, a grocery store check-out line on a busy day, or waiting in the line at immigration, and I’m bound to make at least one friend. I just can’t help it. I love to talk.
Back in elementary school, I got straight A’s, but the thorn in my parents’ side was the dreaded U I got in “Controls talking” on my report cards. I tried so hard to improve. I sometimes got an N, but never an S or an E. Finally giving up on the idea that I would earn good marks in this category, they were content with anything above a U. By the way, can you imagine if our report cards now had “Controls talking”? Ridiculous!
Most people nowadays prefer a text over a phone call, but I much prefer chatting over the phone rather than typing it all out. I like to hear the infection in the other person’s voice; it tells you so much about how they’re feeling. When I tell my stories, I want them to hear the different voices I use and understand the subtle nuances you can only get when listening. Plus, I want to know if they’re really laughing or just using the obligatory lol. I tend to annoy people when I call out of the blue, without the warning text first, but my friends that really know me get that that’s just me, and they answer most of the time. 😉
When I think about why I have the gift of the gab, I guess it’s because I enjoy making personal connections with other people. Having a conversation with someone helps you get to know them on a different level and develop a stronger bond. Texting is okay, but after a while, the connection between you and the other person wanes, unless you regularly talk to or see them.
Sarcastic banter also fuels me. Paying someone out in a playful way is so much fun, but way easier to do in person. So often written text can be misinterpreted. The reader reads into it, putting their own attitude and spin on it. The subtlety is lost, and unless you really know someone, most sarcastic comments and jokes can come across as mean when sent as written communication.
So, despite the changes in how people communicate lately, where much of it is now virtual and that human connection is lost, I still choose to talk because talking’s my thing.