TBAs #sol18

So today, I’m frustrated. I’ve let something someone said get to me. I’ve been stewing over their rude, unprofessional emails for over an hour. I want to let it go, but it’s one of those ‘straw that broke the camel’s back‘ kind of things. The constant negative complaints have piled up, and I’ve had enough. The fact that I’m in a lot of pain in my neck and shoulder because I pulled a muscle this weekend during the classroom makeover is only making me more irritable. But, rather than give this person any more power over me and my emotions, I’m going to write my TBAs.

TBA stands for Truths, Beauties, and Appreciations. It’s a reflective exercise I do when I’m in a funk and need to get some perspective. I learned it from a very wise friend, and it’s served me well in the past. Dwelling on the positives, rather than the negatives, does wonders in releasing the negative energy that’s currently built up. So without further adieu, here are my TBAs today.


  • I have amazing, supportive friends who love me.
  • I rarely drink soda, but today after work was a Dr. Pepper kinda day. And I don’t feel one bit guilty.
  • I finally booked my Spring Break flights and hotel yesterday, and am so looking forward to some down time in two weeks!
  • I’ve been really good about cutting back on watching TV the last couple weeks, but I vegged out yesterday due my shoulder screaming at me. It was good to get caught up on Grey’s Anatomy, Modern Family, and Scandal.
  • I work hard, but always feel like it isn’t enough. I’ve been reflecting on this a lot lately. It’s made me think about my productivity, whether I could use my time and energy more wisely, and whether I am being a little too hard on myself.


  • The plants all over my living room
  • Spencer’s infectious laugh
  • The smiles on the students’ faces today at dismissal
  • The vibrant greenery that surrounds me just outside my window
  • The red dragon fruit juice I drank today- nature is simply beautiful!


  • The huge bear hug and thank you I got from a Year 1 student this morning. She ran up to me, wrapped her arms around me, and said, “Thank you, Ms. Kesler for our new room! I love it!”
  • I appreciate Rohana so much. She keeps my house clean, makes sure I have healthy food in my fridge, and is the sweetest lady ever!
  • Today, I met the man who will potentially be my new boss next year, and he seems really great! I think he’ll be super supportive, and I’ll learn a lot from him. Hope he takes the job!
  • I took a luxurious bath last night in my huge bathtub for the first time since I’ve moved in, and it was so relaxing! I might take another one tonight. 😉
  • The Slice of Life Challenge- it’s truly a gift each year, and I don’t know what I’d do without it. Thank you TWT for hosting this challenge that has become so much of who I am.

I feel much better now, and I will be able to sleep without that gunk clogging up my mind. A good night’s sleep will do me some good and I’m sure I’ll wake up feeling even better tomorrow!

What do you know to be true, find beautiful, and appreciate?

22 thoughts on “TBAs #sol18

  1. Leila Michelle

    I think a lot of people in society feel like they work too hard. It is a major downside of our generation. It is so hard to get everything done in a day and if you have kids FORGET IT. I could use an extra 3 days each week. Just to catch up on everything!

  2. elsie

    Reflecting on what’s right in your world is so much better than dwelling on the negative. Your life is filled with many blessings. So where are you off to this spring break? 🙂

    1. aggiekesler Post author

      Singapore for the first half for an IB Heads Conference and then Penang, Malaysia for the second half! Both are places I’ve never been, so I’m looking forward to exploring and eating yummy foods! 🙂

      1. elsie

        Singapore is great! Are you going to meet up with Jee Young? We did a bike tour in Singapore, I reviewed it on Trip Advisor. Had a great time. Also loved the Gardens by the Bay. My husband attended high school there for one year. Same school Jee Young teaches at.

      2. aggiekesler Post author

        I hope to be able to grab dinner with her…I saw her in 20102 when I visited Korea, so it’d be great! The bike tour sounds great, but with my ankle I’m not sure I’d be able to. I sure wish I could though; I love biking! That’s a neat connection you two have. 😊

  3. arjeha

    Love this idea of how to get rid of negativity. So often we let it sit and brew until it takes over out whole being. Dwelling on the positive puts us once again in control of ourselves.

  4. Sara Tomasevich

    I’ve never heard of TBAs and I could use more of this in my life on my negative days. I can’t say I wasn’t jealous about your relaxing bath and TV bingeing day. Somedays you need to just Netflix and Chill to rebalance yourself 🙂

    I love that you were able to highlight all of the positive things going on in your life right now!

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  6. Elisabeth Ellington

    This is a wonderful strategy for pushing away the grrrs. I’m having a grrr kind of day myself and I’m going to open my notebook right now and see what I can come up with for my own TBAs. I forced myself to do a Things I Love post today to try to find some gratitude and beauty in the world, but I think it’s worn off!

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  8. mbhmaine

    I love this structure for a slice, but even more for trying to shift my perspective when I’ve got a bad case of the “can’t help its.” (That was our name for it when our children were just grumpy and out of sorts and couldn’t seem to shift.) What a great practice! It sure does sound like you have lots of positives in your world. Thanks for sharing!

  9. karpenglish

    This is a terrific way to handle the Negative Nellies of the world and really focus on the positives. I bet making yourself stop and write them down really helps. I know that I always feel better when I write after a bad day, even if I am not consciously recalling the good moments.

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